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Don’t. Forget. To. Do. Things.

Posted on May 19, 2022May 19, 2022 by tjoroski

Messy, messy, messy. That’s been the overarching theme of these past few months. COVID cases rising, women’s rights plummeting, people shooting guns into oblivion, work-life balance teetering on the edge of destruction. Blah, blah, blah.

So much time for insanity & stress, so little time for peace and “self care.” In my recent post I shared my challenge of making myself NOT check the news everyday. It’s actually worked (besides the major stories that squeeze there way into my day). I am ever so slightly less on edge than I was before. BUT my ticket to bits and pieces of peaceful moments is not just coffee breaks and a zero-news policy—it’s actually what I call mindful wellness. And yeah, if life allows for this so called mindful wellness, then you take that shit and R U N with it. Here’s why.

Some of you are like “wtf is that I mean yeah I drink water and sleep sometimes and that’s what I call good health.” Others are like “yes sis I zen out all the time just child’s pose and chill.” WELL, mindful wellness to me is when somehow some way, I am able to create space to do something for myself that a) pushes my comfort boundaries like trying something new b) schedule an appointment for something that brings me physical relief or c) make time for ANYTHING that brings me joy (Nordstrom rack stroll, coffee shop trip, painting my toes or blasting J-Lo’s Jenny from the Block).

My real life example is something I’ve picked up recently. Once a week, I go to beginning/intermediate hip hop dance choreography and dance my heart out. I’m no professional by any means and the only other dance I’ve done is as a kid until I was like 6. But for some reason, this shit unlocks my soul and I feel so elated. I’ve always said that in my past life or if I were to be reincarnated, I would be a talented back up dancer to someone famous. This time and space that I create, this one hour of dancing and learning something new, brings me so much joy.

In a world that tries to steal ALL our joy- we must take it back. Take back that space and time. Find a way if you can. Plan ahead. Take a day, an hour, even 20 minutes to choose something (walking, dancing, reading, Pilates, yoga, that tv series that airs new episodes once a week, cooking etc). Anything that feels like soul food—EAT IT. It’s SO important to choose yourself in ways that make you feel happy, special, cared for.

Y’all we are more than our jobs, more than our relationships, more than our paychecks. We often forget that there’s more to our lives and sometimes we have to change our routine to account for something more than work, school, sleep, repeat or whatever it is that you usually do. So YEAH, mindful wellness is key fam. DON’T forget to do things👏🏼

peace, youth

“Mid Year Resolutions”

Posted on April 11, 2022April 10, 2022 by tjoroski

Happy almost-middle-of-the-f*cking-year everyone!

My gawd. What the hell happened. April is that weird month between cold and warm where no one really knows if they should wear a jacket or not? Like freezing when you walk out the house but 10 minutes in your sweaty and frustrated. Yay!

Anyways, this post comes after the ‘sunday scaries’ hit me. At work. Lmao I work Sundays so it just sucks. BUT, truly I got to thinking. I made a new commitment to myself. A mid year resolution if you will. I vow to stay away from actively checking the news. Like seeking out stories, listening to news podcasts or constantly refreshing Yahoo News for weird click-baity bullshit. Literally though, today was weird. On a Sunday morning, I read about Ukraine still blowing up, Portlands’ 473485348975th shooting this year already, someone’s car being stolen in my neighborhood (again), etc..the list goes on. ALL before noon like wtf.

Its one of those things that can really affect you. I feel like I exist in a constant state of low grade anxiousness and paranoia. Life, the world, people…all so unpredictable. No day is the same- in both good and bad ways. One day it’s amazing news like the Supreme Court Justice being a black woman or Portland having a 5 day sunny streak. The next day its a double homicide with a side of rain. I. CaNt. DeAl.

I have to constantly try to disassociate myself from the negative shit. ITS LITERALLY EVERYWHERE. Facebook, Insta, snapchat, TV, magazines, c a b l e, other people..even unsolicited when it pops up on my phone or computer when I don’t want it. It brings me down, seriously I get freaked out and wish I could wrap the people, places and animals I love in bubble wrap. I have to take a breath and focus in on the reality of where I am and what Im doing. Remaining present helps, but then I also spam text everyone I know and care about to make sure they’re fine so that I can continue my day.

Everyone leans on different things. I blog, I pray, I watch TV (have to be careful bc I like dramatic shows but that doesn’t always tie in well with avoiding negative shit), go to yoga, focus on work, FaceTime my people, walk my dog. All the things that make me happy. I, and by I, I mean WE as people cannot live in fear for we will stop living altogether if that happens. BUT we remain vigilant AND as present as we can. Be smart, be tough but don’t forget to enjoy. Enjoy the reasons we find life worth living like fr because that sh*t is important.

I speak a lot on inner peace. I believe that our inner peace allows us to be good people in this world of chaos. Well I can’t be a peaceful b*tch when the world seems to be falling apart??? SO if anyone reading this can relate in any way, I challenge you to join me in committing to no news for awhile. The news will always be there, both good and things will happen, and if the news is big enough then we’ll find out anyways BUT for now, focus on the good shit and exhale- or just don’t read- that bullshit.

peace, youth

That Inner Peace tho

Posted on March 11, 2022 by tjoroski

Chaos. What is it?

Its trouble, pain, stress, hardship, worry, fear, trauma, damage, confusion. It’s where I feel most lost. And it’s happening nearly all the time.

BUT. Theres that in-between space. Where there’s air to breathe. When my footsteps don’t feel as heavy. When I get my jacket caught on a door handle yet I don’t feel like punching a wall or getting red in the face. It’s those moments where I notice more little things, like people holding hands, or birds chirping. Today I didn’t order coffee to survive, I ordered coffee for FUN. I got a hot Americano with half & half and honey lavender syrup. I MEAN thank GAWD for the days we can splurge on some organic honey lavender syrup.

Lately, I’ve been feeling a weird mix of gratefulness and guilt. Grateful I can wake up safe, warm with a roof over my head but also guilty that our world is suffering all over the globe. So when I notice my inner peace and really feel the calm..I take note. I bask in it. I breathe it in. Inhale the good shit exhale the bullshit type deal. Our inner peace is of the UTMOST importance. It’s what keeps us alive. Without our good moments with ourselves and others, what do we have?

I challenge anyone reading this post to take note and think for a moment about a good thing that happened to you recently. Whether it be finding $5 on the floor or someone hot smiled at you. Maybe you cleaned your house and found an old relic or your dog finally did that new trick. Maybe you got that shift covered or you notice the sun shining into your room in just the most perfect way like an urban outfitters ad.

Notice your inner peace. Roll around in it, inhale, exhale. Because in a world that feels like constant chaos, our inner peace and the good energy we manifest through it, is unmatched.

Self Defense

GORGEOUS GORGEOUS GIRLS NEED ADDED SECURITY

Posted on February 14, 2022 by tjoroski

YALL. I already wrote today but I am compelled. I am super passionate about one thing and one thing only. WIDGETS THAT PROVIDE B*TCHES WITH MORE SAFETY.

I have an issue with hearing the same shit day in and day out. Stories about being kidnapped, hurt, belittled, attacked and so much worse. Self-identifying women and girls literally LIVE their lives looking over their shoulder and its the most gut wrenching feeling when looking over our shoulders is justified by some bullshit. Bullshit meaning: walking to our cars at night (or during broad daylight bc these motherf*ckers don’t care) while keeping an eye on the weirdo a few cars away, or quickly trying to get the key into the damn door ASAP because a sus looking dude passed us on the street a few minutes ago. ITS EXHAUSTING and SADLY NECESSARY.

Anyways I wanted to talk about my widgets and PLUG YALL. These days people (usually f*ucked up men) feel its their GOD given right to f*uck with us women and girls (sorry for the profanity but this is no joke). SO that being said I have TAKEN UP ARMS in all widget forms and I’ll address them plus include links below.

#1) THE MASTER LOCK 265D Door Security Bar

My apartment is 26327234 years old and for some reason the ancient people who put in my door decided I was one of the lucky few that don’t deserve a peep hole. AND YES I have had instances where a peep hole would have been the most ideal. Like when its 2am and you hear strange noises right outside your door and you are mapping out how to exit down your 26327234 year old fire escape. This thing is gold. I saw it on tik tok and it makes me feel so much more secure. Just adjust it and pop it under the door handle and BOOM automatically upgrade to fortress level apartment!!

Click the pics below each paragraph and CHECK THIS SH*T OUT!

#2) Keychain for Women “Solid Full Stainless Steel Key Chain Pen shape”

This is another FAVE. It’s just an example of another one I have that is similar. My mom bought a pack and I copped a blue one. These bad boys will take an eye out. I literally have one on my car keys and although previously mistaken for a sex toy, this poker will do major damage (and not the good kind).

**this is the kind i have, sharp on the bottom, etsy has some too!**

#3) LADIES AND GENTLEMAN: PEPPER SPRAY! Duh.

It’s kind weird that we normalize women carrying pepper spray. Like think about it. We get cute colors to match our keys or cars, there’s glittery cases and fancy carriers for these. BUT ITS NOT CUTE. WTF. Like being 14 and handed pepper spray by my mom who told me to point and spray if some dick got too close. Years later here we are still carrying. Finally bought a new one though, if you know you know, that shit expires like mascara but do we upgrade as often as we should? NO lol so here’s you’re sign to get some new pepper spray sis!

#4) BRASS KNUCKELS? KINDA!

These are hard to come by. Amazon doesn’t really offer them so I plugged a link to a product that has a little bit of all the widgets in one which is dope. Basically this product goes on your fingers and acts like a jabber to poke MFs who try to poke you. I’ve had mine for years and although its small, it’s something better than your damn keys between your knuckles.

#5) LASTLY: The one and only TASER. 10/10 recommend.

ZAP, fry, and scare creeps all at the same time. Some of these even have a built in alarm or light. Definitely recommend grabbing one of these. Just the sound of the taser could be enough to scare someone off. I like this one because similar to pepper spray, you don’t have to be up on the person to scare them. Threats often don’t mess with you unless you make an easy target (so unfortunate but true) so we have to be in the business of making it hard as hell. This one has amazing reviews and is small enough to pop in your bag. I am definitely a fan!

…….AND THERE YOU HAVE IT GORGEOUS GORGEOUS GIRLS. I literally have at least 2/5 of these with me 100% of the time because living with my head on a swivel gets f*cking old. This is our reality and it’s not our fault, yet we have to go to battle every day against this insane narrative that leaving our homes puts us risk for GOD knows what. Well f*ck that. You screw with me I’ll tase your balls off!