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Don’t. Forget. To. Do. Things.

Posted on May 19, 2022May 19, 2022 by tjoroski

Messy, messy, messy. That’s been the overarching theme of these past few months. COVID cases rising, women’s rights plummeting, people shooting guns into oblivion, work-life balance teetering on the edge of destruction. Blah, blah, blah.

So much time for insanity & stress, so little time for peace and “self care.” In my recent post I shared my challenge of making myself NOT check the news everyday. It’s actually worked (besides the major stories that squeeze there way into my day). I am ever so slightly less on edge than I was before. BUT my ticket to bits and pieces of peaceful moments is not just coffee breaks and a zero-news policy—it’s actually what I call mindful wellness. And yeah, if life allows for this so called mindful wellness, then you take that shit and R U N with it. Here’s why.

Some of you are like “wtf is that I mean yeah I drink water and sleep sometimes and that’s what I call good health.” Others are like “yes sis I zen out all the time just child’s pose and chill.” WELL, mindful wellness to me is when somehow some way, I am able to create space to do something for myself that a) pushes my comfort boundaries like trying something new b) schedule an appointment for something that brings me physical relief or c) make time for ANYTHING that brings me joy (Nordstrom rack stroll, coffee shop trip, painting my toes or blasting J-Lo’s Jenny from the Block).

My real life example is something I’ve picked up recently. Once a week, I go to beginning/intermediate hip hop dance choreography and dance my heart out. I’m no professional by any means and the only other dance I’ve done is as a kid until I was like 6. But for some reason, this shit unlocks my soul and I feel so elated. I’ve always said that in my past life or if I were to be reincarnated, I would be a talented back up dancer to someone famous. This time and space that I create, this one hour of dancing and learning something new, brings me so much joy.

In a world that tries to steal ALL our joy- we must take it back. Take back that space and time. Find a way if you can. Plan ahead. Take a day, an hour, even 20 minutes to choose something (walking, dancing, reading, Pilates, yoga, that tv series that airs new episodes once a week, cooking etc). Anything that feels like soul food—EAT IT. It’s SO important to choose yourself in ways that make you feel happy, special, cared for.

Y’all we are more than our jobs, more than our relationships, more than our paychecks. We often forget that there’s more to our lives and sometimes we have to change our routine to account for something more than work, school, sleep, repeat or whatever it is that you usually do. So YEAH, mindful wellness is key fam. DON’T forget to do things👏🏼

motivation

Mission Impossible

Posted on February 23, 2022June 17, 2024 by tjoroski

Someone real once said, “the days where you feel the most unmotivated are the days that matter the most.”

THAT is some hardcore sh*t. And I’ll tell you why.

The other day I felt so tired, lost, anxious, confused, annoyed, frustrated, hungry, tired, mad etc. In short, I felt unmotivated as hell. Sitting in my car literally thinking about how on Earth I’m supposed to do sh*t, know stuff and be somebody. I do what everyone tells you to do, “sit with your feelings you’re supposed to feel it” yeah well that was agony because my overthinking brain drove me insane for like 45 minutes while I bounced from do I have a future to what kind of burrito I feel like having. I felt unmotivated because I just didn’t feel a pull and I could care less in that moment.

By pull I mean passion, desire, want. Like what do I like? What do I wanna do? I wanna help people. Ok b*tch but how?? IDK. When you have a plan that was supposed to turn out a certain way or happen in the way you imagined but then..well..doesn’t…its a BAD FEELING, because then you’re like “oh sh*t now what.” I help ill people and have a sedan so I guess that’s a good start but my gawd.

When I feel like this (and lately it’s been often), I think back to what I wrote about in my past blogs: finding growth in the space we create for ourselves & putting one foot in front of the other. For example, my job and/or interactions I have with people, are the stimulus I encounter each day. The response to this stimuli is needing rest, food, other social interaction, emotions etc. The space I create for myself is inside my selfish moments (not always a bad thing). For example, my ultimate space creator is yoga, this blog, or time with my bf & dog. It could also be tv, organizing my home, eating the vegan pastry I bought or online shopping. In this space, I grow. My patience improves, my body heals, my mind chills tf out, I hydrate, I might learn something about myself and what I like.

This space I create then goes on to positively affect my stimuli, response, and ultimately how motivated I am to keep going. So, the days I feel the most unmotivated are the days I try to step away from all that sh*t weighing me down and I just try to create space. This is what’s important. Us as individuals in each individual moment. Our moment’s make us inherently better for ourselves and others.

SO YEAH. It’s true. The days where you feel the most unmotivated ARE in fact the days that matter the most. Take care of yourselves, because unmotivated you needs love too. No matter what, you’ll wake up tomorrow, but maybe it’ll be with more rest and level headedness. You might even wake up motivated to do something new like quit your sh*tty job or create a blog.